In our Sunday school class we often read articles and critically analyze them from a Christian perspective. This Sunday we read this article titled What Makes a Happy Child? - Ten things that you can do to raise a happy person.
Now I really don’t have any disagreements with the 10 things that this article suggests. In fact I agree with most of them. It was the introduction, however, that gave me pause.
Ask any expectant or new mother about her aspirations for her baby and almost invariably she will say something along the lines of "I just want my child to be happy."
As grown-ups, of course, we know that happiness is often elusive. And a sunny disposition may have as much to do with nature (the genetic hand we've been dealt) as with nurture (external circumstances). Even where the latter is concerned, experts are far more certain about what is not relevant (such as money) than what is. What happy people do have in common, say researchers who have studied the subject, are certain key characteristics, including a good sense of optimism, close family ties, good friends, a gift for empathizing with others, and the conviction that their life has meaning.
So what’s wrong with that Steven? Don’t you want your children to be happy? Well, yeah, I guess, it’s just that happiness is not the most important thing in life. While reading this article,
the sage words of Bowden McElroy rang in the back of my mind.
Begin with the end in mind. The goal, when raising children, is NOT to have a precious 2-year-old, or a precocious fifth-grader, or a model teenager. The end goal is to raise independent, fully functioning, adults who love Christ with all their heart, soul, and mind.
If I understand what he is saying then happiness is also not the goal when raising children. If however I raise my children to be centered in Christ, to be responsible independent adults, then their joy will be in the Lord, the meaning for their life will not be to strive for happiness, but to strive to serve Him.
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